ok, I think something is getting lost in translation.
I think what ovm is trying to say here is that what you are doing (looking for donations for a worthy cause) isn't what he considers to be begging or disgraceful, but rather the fact that you find yourself having to HAVE TO DO THAT is what he finds disgraceful. I believe what ovm is saying, is that in this day and age of abundance and wealth, sick people should be able to be cared for by their wealthy country's health care system and the fact that they aren't and now you find yourself in a position of having to have to ask for donations - that is what he finds appalling.
or . . . . I could be way off and he just thinks you are begging
